Happy birthday to me . Birthdays make me sad. Not because it’s a reminder of the dwindling number of heartbeats remaining to me, but because I particularly miss my mother on this day. Year after year, decade after decade, Mom made a big hoopla for me. She’d fix a nice dinner, followed by some elaborate dessert. Sometimes a big party, other times a small gathering. It was marvelous. I loved my birthday as a child with the trifecta of parties, gifts, and cake. Funny, I don’t have any specific dessert memories until my 17 th when Mom wowed me with Baked-Alaska, which was heavenly. Her last year, she fixed a three-layer, fabulously gooey, orange sauced vanilla custard cake confection. Ooooh, that was good. Desserts aside, ultimately my birthday seemed like a celebration for the two of us. After all, we were both there on that auspicious day. We had a tacit unders...